Dear Soul on the Other Side of the Screen,
In the midst of accelerated dissolution and chaos pouring through the daily news, it's normal to feel pangs of grief in the center of your heart. Contrast is a powerful teacher, and from the pain, the next blessing in your life may now be seen with a heightened sensitivity to the wonders of joy. Duality is the dance floor, and Qoya has always been a place where movement is a metaphor.
After tragedy enters into our individual or collective experience, one thing that slows down our healing is the idea that we shouldn't feel how we feel. If we're in grief, we tell ourselves we should get over it and be more positive. If we're experiencing joy and gratitude, we might feel we shouldn't be, and that we should be mourning to show our respect. Something I often say in class is:
"Imagine there is no way you can do it wrong and that the way you know you're doing it right is that it feels right to you - that it feels honest and true."
Making this shift places value on authenticity. In the midst of destabilization of structures, an opportunity arises to stand for what you believe in and to offer yourself in the circles of impact that you have. Your most powerful service will come from the trust that you have in honoring your own experience. Trusting yourself supports you as you support others.
It seems as if the great mystery reveals itself to us both in ways that we can understand and in ways that we can't. We come back to the fork in the road between fear and trust. In my own life, I have learned, again and again, to trust grief AND to trust joy. My greatest teacher in this has been nature. Like the forest fire of destruction that is necessary for a forest's growth, there is a perspective of life larger than any individual that simultaneously offers every one of us a small part in its fragile balance. Even as flames burn, you might see the most beautiful sunset you've ever seen, mysteriously calming you for a moment of awe.
Immense emotions can be overwhelming to the mind while also acting as fuel for the body, and you can find ways of moving your body that bring your nervous system back to balance and your awareness back to center. Maybe it's Qoya. Maybe it's hiking, or yoga, or this, or that. I highly encourage you to notice for yourself: what role does movement play in helping you access your most trusted true sense of self? Can it help you center as you dance with the intensity of this week and this full moon in Aries?