Dear Soul on the Other Side of the Screen,

About three years ago, I embarked on one of the biggest challenges of my life. With the help of my therapist, I had identified the destructive patterns that were playing out in my romantic relationships were most likely stemming from the fact that I had never met my father. Instead of dealing with that issue directly, I was projecting my disappointment of abandonment and rejection onto all men I dated.

I did a people search online and headed to St. Augustine, Florida to knock on his door and look this mystery man in the eye. I invited my dear friend and earth angel Luci to join me.

When shit got real and I needed to get out of the car and go up to the door, Luci said something I repeat to myself now and again that feels appropriate for the unique moment that is now.

She said, "Let's go be who we are. We bring love and light to everything we do. Let's go be who we are."

With that, I got out of the car and went and had one of the best conversations of my life with my dad (you can read the whole story in my book), but I'd love to share one highlight.

When I asked him if he knew who I was, he paused and just like a parent who savors the first words of a child, I savored the first words of my father as he said, "This situation makes me think of the lyrics, 'What a long strange trip it's been.'"

He was quoting the Grateful Dead song "Truckin,'" and I grew up as a huge Grateful Dead fan. My whole body smiled with the recognition that my dad is a deadhead (an affectionate term for those who resonate with the music in a way that goes beyond words).

Last week, I was in Taos, New Mexico with Dr. Anne Davin and Robert Mirabal exploring their offering of Movement, Myth, and the Mysteries of Water. I had met Brigid there at previous workshops, but this time, I recognized her from the Grateful Dead documentary as the woman who gave Jerry Garcia his first guitar and encouraged him to play music as a young man! What!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?

I honored her in our conversation. We all have a role to play in this world and do our best to play that role well. As the Bhagavad Gita says (paraphrasing), it is better to fail miserably at your own dharma (life purpose) than to succeed at someone else's. I honored her for the catalyst that she was for the soulful revolution that came from the Grateful Dead, and that someone needed to introduce Jerry to a guitar and how amazing that she did.

I also shared with her how the Grateful Dead's music played such a significant role in my own life story. And isn't that what so much of life is? The interweaving of the meaning we bring to each moment. The moments when we are so present, we release our grip of interpretation on our personal narrative, and we are simply present to the music that transcends us back to a place of infinity, a place where we can travel on the railroad of vibrational current and arrive again and again.

I love music. As a dancer, I honor most musicians for their music like they are preaching gospel, because the music is the invitation to dance so fully that we get to be more of who we are. Movement helps us remember. One of my favorite tag lines about Qoya is just that. In Qoya, Come As You Are and Leave As More of Who You Are. See if that's true for you with our free movement ritual below as you get ready to honor this New Moon in Leo.

I filmed this video in Sweden wearing a red dress. Leo energy likes to shine! I invite you to move any way you want and wear anything you want, but perhaps explore choosing something that feels like it expresses more of who you are. Embrace the movement with that intention - to feel as much like yourself as possible - and see if movement helps you come back to your most authentic center.

When you are present in your body and present in the moment, it will be a powerful opportunity to merge with the energy of this new moon.

Our resident Qoya astrologer Virginia Rosenberg shares:

The New Moon in Leo on July 23, 2017 (5:46am EST) is marvelous. This lunation begins our entrance into a historic eclipse cycle to take place in August. Warm yourself by the light of the sun. Sunlight is an essential nutrient. As we absorb its essence, the seed of a new Self is born. Evolution is activated with verve and immediacy. How fun, to break free and be more of who we really are! How genius, that as we be more of ourselves, the world gains love. Consider this: as the world evolves, her creatures naturally adapt to new conditions. Like grapes heavy with the season, we ripen to contain the light of more life. Hold nothing back. Let the light in even more! Imagine the joy of being tasted at your fullness. Step out with passion and open your eyes to see the sun pour across another blessed day. We are strong. We are vital. We have the courage to walk, to run, to dance in childlike delight. We are invigorated. Bring forth the whole of life itself through the wondrous mask of your own essence.

In the conversation between Bill Moyers and Joseph Campbell, Bill asks, "You're talking about a search for the meaning of life?" Joseph Campbell replies, "No, no, no. For the experience of being alive."

May this new moon, this new day, and this new moment help strengthen our power to choose to dance with life.

I'm grateful to be dancing with you through these words and this video, and look forward to the next time we all remember to dance as One.

With love and respect,



We have spots available in both our upcoming teacher training Intensives:

Highlands, North Carolina: September 10 - 17, 2017 with Sara Ballard and Kaci Florez

Nosara, Costa Rica: March 31 - April 7, 2018 with Rochelle Schieck

Click here to learn more about the Qoya teacher training program.


A reminder to check out the new Lifestyle of Reverence podcast in which Rochelle interviews experts on the expansion and evolution of consciousness. Guests so far include: Dr. Anne Davin, Dr. Christiane Northrup, Dr. Neha Sangwan, Jamie Watkins, Meggan Watterson, Kate Northrup, Samar Ocean Wolf Ciprian, Latham Thomas, Kitty Cavalier.

Listen on Soundcloud or iTunes.