I have a confession. I talk a lot about how through movement, we remember. We remember our essence is wise, wild and free through yoga, dance and sensual movement. I talk a lot about the profound healing power of ritual, community, and pilgrimage, and I take people to beautiful beaches in Costa Rica, goddess temples in India, spiritual communities in Bali, to the forests of upstate New York, the mountains of California, and the spas of Miami. In many ways it seems (and is) luxurious. The photos show women smiling and radiating a unique form of bliss which happens when you feel your soul's truth in your body.

My confession is the way to get there is not sunshine, rainbows and unicorns.

Yes, it's true. I say, "There's no way you can do Qoya wrong, and the way you know you're doing it right is that it feels good." More than feeling good, that it feels honest.

When you put yourself in conditions where—

  • you step out of the daily momentum of distractions from your soul
  • you eat healthy food to detox your system
  • you move and feel circulation of stagnant thoughts, feelings and memories
  • you sit down with the sacred in ritual and ceremony
  • you connect with a conscious community as a mirror of your inner self
  • you step into the unknown on a pilgrimage and cultivate the courage and willingness to take an inner and outer journey

—an interesting thing happens: the shadow comes to the light.

As Jung says, "There is no coming to consciousness without pain. People will do anything, no matter how absurd, in order to avoid facing their own Soul. One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious.”

There is often a preference in our culture for the light aspects of the feminine (sunshine, smiling, joy and unicorns). We often forget the immense power of the darker feminine — dark not meaning evil, but hidden. It is necessary to surrender to it. You cannot force your way through the dark nights or days of the soul, and when you allow yourself to trust the process of your own heart like you trust the seasons of fall, winter, spring, summer, you can trust yourself.

The resistance to darkness, the fear, is the most challenging part. We fear the necessary death of the ego, yet the ego must surrender again and again and again, releasing layers of the false self, in order to continue the next opening and becoming. 

There are 13 pillars of a Qoya class, and Shadow Dance is one of them. It is possibly the most important part of class. The reconciliation of the shadow self is what brings us into being healed, whole, and holy.

Like all things in Qoya, it is something that can rarely be explained and must be felt.  

On this Full Moon in Libra, I invite you to explore the wisdom to dance with your shadow with this Movement Ritual

On this full moon, and anytime you need it, this free Full Moon Movement Ritual is here for you to do, along with many others. Also, here is some guidance for this Full Moon in Libra from writer and astrologer Suzanne Gillette:

On April 4, the full moon in Libra helps us realize that the most important relationship we can have is with our gorgeous, bad-ass selves. The more you go within for the answers, the more your respect for your own sense of knowing grows — and exponentially. From this place, abandonment doesn’t exist, because you KNOW that you will never leave yourself behind. Let go of tired notions of how it’s supposed to be, and stay present to the ever-supportive harmony within. Call in your most electric, plugged-in wisdom.

How do you do that?

You cultivate the Wisdom to Dance with Your Shadow.

I've tried it a million other ways and the old adage continues to feel true to me, "the only way out is through." In Qoya, we learn how to look both our brightest light and our darkest shadow in the eye, and invite both of them to dance.

Because Jung also says, “Your visions will become clear only when you can look into your own heart. Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.”

If you enjoy the video and want to learn more about the philosophy of Qoya, I'd be honored if you would watch our Qoya Kickstarter video and see if any of the offerings call to you, like ordering the book and taking an inner journey with it or doing a private session with me to dance with your shadow (or anything else that resonates with your soul).

I hope you have a beautiful day, and I am wishing you all the courage you need to honor both the light and dark in your inner world. The wisdom to dance with your shadow helps you find your way in the dark. Through your experience, remember that all paths, ALL PATHS, always lead back to love.

To awakening,