Many years ago when I was living in New York City, I went on a date with a man that I had a crush on for a long time.  He was a musician.  I was a dancer. After many nights of exchanging energy with him playing his instrument and me dancing in sync to each note, we exchanged phone numbers and went out on a date.  On a warm autumn evening on a street corner in Brooklyn, under a flickering lamppost, I stood one step above him on the staircase of a brownstone building and we kissed.  We kissed passionately, like enthusiastic teenagers who revel in the freedom of being adults and as the weight shifted and swayed between us, we lost our balance and we fell.  He had a tear in his jeans, blood gushing from the cement rubbing against his knee and he got up with a little bit of a limp.  I felt horrible and asked, "Are you ok?"  He had the best response ever.  He looked at me and said, "It's ok, we were made to heal."

Ramana Maharishi was a guru and teacher from India who taught the path to enlightenment by asking the question over and over again, "Who Am I?"  More than reading books, learning mantras or spiritual pilgrimage, he believed the way in was this question.  I went to the particular cave that he meditated in in Tiruvannamali, India in 2007 and when I sat there a great peace came over me where I felt that I too, could sit in meditation and solely connect with the etheric energetic magnificence that is the life force and essence of this world.  I felt myself inspired to drift off into the ether and explore how much eternity I could experience beyond my senses.  Until... I heard a message that said, "No. Your job this lifetime is not to sit still but to dance. The path of enlightenment through meditation and stillness is well documented, but the path of liberation through movement has been lost.  Go dance and teach people how to find the divine within them that way."

If you follow this blog, you may have read my last couple posts Break On Through To the Other Side and Remembering Darkness as the Precursor to Creation.  You may have gathered that I have been going through a hard time, heart break and another surrendering into the unknown.  I feel perfectly in sync with the seasons, the days of summer, before beginning the process of autumn, of leaves falling from the trees, of remembering that life is a series of letting go.  In the midst of this more challenging and initiatory time, I have come back to the words of my date that night and remembered that yes, we were made to heal and that one of the most powerful, healing, transformative ways I know to come back to what is beautiful, true, loving and joyous about life is movement and gratitude.

Movement: We've got you covered.  Qoya is based on the idea that through movement, we remember.  We remember our essence is wise, wild and free.  Wise, wild and free also draw reference to the movement forms that we practice.  Wise- calling on the wisdom of yoga.  Wild- the creative expression in dance.  Free- expanding our capacity to enjoy being in our bodies through sensual movement.  Remembering that there is no way you can do it wrong and the way you know that you're doing it right, is that it feels good.  

Gratitude:  Did you know that Sunday, September 21st is not only the most perfect day to put on the song "September" by Earth, Wind and Fire and sing out loud, "Do you remember, the 21st night of September?"  It's also International Gratitude Day AND it's the first day of the free offering by Dr. Lauren Tober of amazing interviews, an online community and a way to bring more gratitude into your life!  Sign up here.

My favorite thing about gratitude is knowing that what you look for is what you see, if you look for gratitude, you will surely find it.  The pain of wishing things were different than they are is healed by the gratitude for what is.  And in the shamanic tradition of healing the first step to heal is when you can receive the gift of what has been.  By looking for gratitude and expressing it, you begin the first step of your journey.

The two main take aways here are: #dancingmakeseverythingbetter and #gratitudeisasuperpower.  Is that true for you too?

We would love to hear your stories of how this is true for you and if you would like some more support on integrating and incorporating this energy and these practices into your daily life, please check out our free videos online and the description on how to do a despacho ceremony with a new 11 minute instructional video!

We can't always choose what we need to heal, but we can choose how to engage the healing and use the balm of gratitude and call on the wisdom, wildness and freedom of our essence to help guide our way back to that eternal knowing that everything is going to be ok, because like a teacher of mine would say, "It's never what you think, it's always better." 

We were made to heal.

And we were also made to dance.

So, let's dance!



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January 23-28, 2015 New Zealand: Qoya CO-ED Retreat 
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