There is a vitality, a life force, an energy, a quickening that is translated through you into action, and because there is only one of you in all of time, this expression is unique... You do not even have to believe in yourself or your work. You have to keep yourself open and aware to the urges that motivate you. Keep the channel open...
— Martha Graham

Chapter 3 is all about keeping your channel open to be a vessel who is able to anchor your truth in the world through your sacred work. 

Your sacred work is where your super powers are. It's where you uniquely thrive, where your body zings with enthusiasm and passion. It's also in your weaknesses: where you resist, stumble, and fear to give yourself wholeheartedly, because you're afraid it just might break your heart in two if you fail the assignment, because you care so deeply. This is why it's important to remember that the water of your fulfillment comes from the well of your devotion, from your taking action, not only in the external recognition of your attempts when they are deemed successful by another. Go for it in your heart, as if you had your own spiritual cheerleading squad rooting for you.

(Rochelle, pictured here in her cheerleading days, is rooting for you, too!)

Here are the women and businesses featured in the chapter. Visit their websites to check out their beautiful offerings.

"Grief is Leftover Love"

"Grief is Leftover Love"

Nyla Rodgers

Read about Nyla's inspiring story about honoring her mother's death by creating an organization that serves hundreds of thousands of people called Mama Hope.

World-Changing Sex

World-Changing Sex

Talia Frenkel

Talia Frenkel shares her story of traveling as a professional photographer documenting natural disasters for the Red Cross and United Nations when she was inspired to start a condom company when realizing you can't predict tsunamis, earthquakes or floods, but for HIV and AIDS, all you need to do is use a condom. Visit L Condoms to learn more and order her high-quality, environmentally friendly condoms.

World's Greenest Clothing Line

World's Greenest Clothing Line

Smita Paul

Smita Paul was writing a story as a journalist about the handloom industry when she created an opportunity to follow her dream of being a fashion designer and help hundreds of people in the process, as well as our earth by bringing awareness to the consequences of fast fashion. You can order her beautiful scarves and clothing at Indigo Handloom, and we are also proudly carrying one of her exquisite scarves at Lifestyle of Reverence.

Gratitude Designs

Gratitude Designs

Tara Dixon

As visual artist Tara Dixon went through her divorce, she was inspired to paint 34 canvases that each said “thank you,” honoring parts of her marriage and challenging her to release this chapter of her life. This exercise in gratitude became her business, Gratitude Designs, through which she now creates gratitude paintings, greeting cards, and journals.

Mama Linda and daughters Becca and Mia are with Rochelle here in the pool celebrating their love of Pound Jewelry while on a Qoya retreat in Costa Rica.

Mama Linda and daughters Becca and Mia are with Rochelle here in the pool celebrating their love of Pound Jewelry while on a Qoya retreat in Costa Rica.

Linda, Mia, and Becca Kannapell

POUND Jewelry is inspired by the word’s dictionary definition: “To beat or throb with force or vigor, as the heart.” Their mission is to summon their own hearts forward using the healing properties and aesthetic beauty of crystals and stones, each piece of their jewelry marks a transformation in its wearer’s life and in theirs, as they devote themselves to making more beauty in the world. We proudly carry POUND jewelry at Lifestyle of Reverence.


There are many ways to open your channel. Movement is one of them. In this section, we’ll focus on timeless teachings about how to reach the maximum potential for a human life: physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually through yoga.  

Music in this video is by my friend Josh Brill


Rochelle's Kale Salad Recipe

Some rituals stand separate from our daily routines, something special and sacred and unique onto themselves. Some rituals live inside of those routines. For example, can brushing your teeth be a way to send gratitude to everyone who made you smile that day? Can cooking be an opportunity to put mantras and prayers into each ingredient? Can paying your bills be a ceremony of abundance? Yes.

In Chapter 3's ritual section, Rochelle shares seven daily ritual suggestions.  One of them is putting mantras into your food as you cook, here is an example from her kale salad recipe.  

Rochelle writes, "My key to cooking is to put prayers into my food. One of my favorite recipes is a raw Kale Salad. As I cut the kale, I say, “Thank you for all the miracles in my life” because I believe kale is a miracle food. I slice small strips and then cut into small squares. Then, add whatever veggies you desire: I like using organic red peppers and cucumbers, and make a prayer for them, too. The dressing is olive oil, lemon juice, sea salt and cayenne pepper - all to taste - each one with its own prayer. Olive oil: thank you for when life feels delicious. Lemon juice: thank you for all the moments filled with zest and waking up. Sea salt: thank you for clearing of the past. Cayenne pepper: thank you for every moment of passion and heat. The most important thing is to MASSAGE the kale for about 5-10 minutes with your hands with loving intention. Then…voila! Delicious kale salad!"


Another ritual mentioned is the chakra cleansing shower. Your seven chakras are the ways in which your body receives and emanates energy. Trauma, loss, and challenges can leave behind toxic energetic residue that slows down the circulation of energy

In addition to the chakra cleanse in the shower that is detailed in the book, you can expand your awareness of chakras with many wonderful resources on the internet, like Dr. Northrup's website,  Anodea Judith's book Eastern Body, Western Mind, and Carolyn Myss's book Anatomy of the Spirit are also great resources. 


75% of Americans are chronically dehydrated, which means they are not drinking the recommended eight glasses of water daily. Every system in your body depends on water. For example, water flushes toxins out of your vital organs, maintains your body temperature, and helps your blood carry oxygen to your cells. Learn more about the best ways to nourish yourself with this book, Your Body's Many Cries for Water



Gather a small group of people (more than 2, less than 13), and ask everyone to prepare something related to their soul work for the group.

Some will sing.
Some will dance.
Some will show a short film.
Some will take you through an exercise.
Some will share a healing technique.
Some will teach you how to wear red lipstick, others how to build your own kitchen table.

To dive deeper into understanding your sacred work, check out Danielle LaPorte's The Fire Starter Sessions and Elizabeth Gilbert's Big Magic.


These photos are from Rochelle's second pilgrimage to Peru following an intuition to go to Lake Titicaca. The book shares the magical story that unfolded inspiring a deeper understanding of the history of the word Qoya and also understanding the importance of living a lifestyle of reverence.

To embody your Anchoring South and deepen your commitment to your sacred work, identify the person, place, or thing closest to your biggest dream. Who expressed their art so deeply that it has touched your soul? Who is the business maven who turned her creativity into cash flow? Who is the gardener who nurtures gorgeous plants and creates magical landscapes? Where is the place that inspires your writ- ing? Big Sur, California? Paris? Nashville, Tennessee? What time of year brings your creativity to life? Cuddling up by the fire in winter to be in a creative cocoon? Seeing the cherry blossoms bloom in the spring to inspire your blossoming? Who, or what, or where is your inspiration?


You don’t have to go to Peru.
You just have to go within.
You don’t have to go study shamanism.
You just have to surrender to the truth inside your own heart.

You don’t have to start a company or write a book.
You just have to share yourself in the way your soul calls for you to share.

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