We have the freedom to make our own meaning in life.  

For example, today is March 11th.  For some, that means it is 311 day, where people who love the band 311 come together and celebrate.  For me, 311 was the number of the last apartment my grandmother lived in, so every time I see or hear 311, I think of her.  March 11th can be seen as 311, or it can be seen as a Tuesday. The invitation is to realize that we all have the freedom to associate meaning to the things around us, regardless of what the world around us says they mean.

That being said, I’m curious, what meaning do you associate with the following subjects?

Sex.

Orgasm.

Seduction.

The words vagina, pussy or down there.

Sensuality.

Pleasure.

What do these words mean to you? How much are you influenced by their societal context or cultural meaning?

How often does the cultural meaning resonate (or not) with the truth of your own experience?

Here’s why. The evolution of our relationship to sex and sensuality as individuals, in relationships and in our culture, is correlated to the evolution of our relationship to the feminine.  Feminine based values, scientific experiments that actually study women (this was not the case for so long because women had too many variables) and women’s voices as part of the narrative are all emerging more in our mainstream consciousness.   Watching my facebook feed, going through the Huffington Post or Elephant Journal, I see more and more articles that promote a range of topics from orgasmic meditation to healing vaginal massage to someone quoting David Deida.  (Note: I love David Deida.)

This post is an invitation to more deeply explore the role of sex, orgasm, seduction, the words vagina, pussy or down there, sensuality and what pleasure mean to us, as women.  And most interestingly to me, what these topics mean in relationship to our divinity.  The reclamation here is not only of the pleasure of the body, but that the body is sacred.  Less responsible for the sin of the world.  More responsible for the miracle of creation through her feminine form~ whether it be a baby, peace on earth or a sacred moment.  I can only imagine the more we as women explore the truth of how we feel about these topics in our body, the more empowered we will become in our lives.

The good news is there are so many insightful opportunities to explore our relationship to our own sensuality through books, workshops, conferences, as well as Qoya classes and retreats. Here’s a short list as a great way to get started or go deeper.

1- Read the book Vagina: A New Biography my author Naomi Wolfe who wrote The Beauty Myth to learn about the cutting edge neuroscience which shows the connection between the vagina and the brain and how that connection affects a woman’s consciousness. Get a history lesson about patriarchy’s control over women’s bodies from chastity belts to witch hunts to cultural taming of feminine sexuality. Get a glimpse of the potential liberation through the Goddess Array, which are the conditions through which a woman (proven by science) can expand her capacity for confidence, creativity and interconnectedness through pleasure.  There are also some powerful resources and studies citing information on how awareness of this brain/vagina connection can lead to healing from past abuse and trauma.

2- Follow Kitty Cavalier on her blog, join her for a Qoya class Sunday nights from 5-6pm in NYC or take her inspiring offering Seduction as a Spiritual Practice in Seattle April 4-6, 2014.

Her work is about seeing seduction as a spiritual practice. In a world full of rushing and going through the motions, her message of slowing down, savoring and tuning in to a deeper connection to life makes me feel like dancing at sunset in California. I love dancing at sunset in California. And I love Kitty Cavalier. You will too.

3- Research the buzz about Orgasmic Meditation.  The easiest way is to read Nicole Daedone’s book Slow Sex.  The diving in the deep end part of the pool is to attend the OmX conference in San Francisco Friday, March 28th- Sunday, March 30th.  I had heard a lot about “OMing” a practice of Orgasmic Meditation where a woman practices her ability to receive and her partner strokes her clitoris for 15 minutes in a safe and respectful way without any need for reciprocation.  I had a handful of girlfriends who were practicing this meditation and were orgasming for the first time in years (or their lives), their relationships were going to depths never before imagined and their passion for life was burning like the sun.  It caught my attention.  I went to the conference and was truly inspired to see a group of people willing to explore beyond the cultural mores and live their lives as an experiment to feel the potential of our human lives that include orgasm. (Even Deepak Chopra did a segment about Orgasmic Meditation!)

4- Join me and the past Carnaval Queen of Brazil in Rio, Imperatrix, for something we created called Sensual Sundays.  We do one hour of Qoya, one hour of Samba, one hour of ritual and one hour (or more) of spa time because  Click here to register for this Sunday, March 16th, 2014 or indulge in a full sensual experience during the 5th Annual Qoya Retreat in Costa Rica March 29th-April 5th.  Also, explore our Free Qoya Videos online and maybe start with the Sensual Movement one!

5- Do yourself a favor and read a book by David Deida or listen to an audio or do a workshop.  A truly visionary thinker and important voice in the conversation of connecting our sensuality back to our experience of God in our body.

My initiation into this world was through a class I took in New York City at Mama Gena’s School of Womanly Arts.  It was sub-titled the “Pleasure Revolution” and included coursework that taught me more about my anatomy as a woman than my mother, school and every doctor visit combined, along with the anatomy of communication, grief, relationships and desire- through the lens of a woman.  I am forever grateful for the portal opened for me by that course and the community of women who courageously ventured down that path before, alongside and after me.

Since my initiation into this feminine viewpoint in 2007, the interesting thing I’ve learned about sensuality is that you can’t think your way into it, you have to feel it.  And feeling takes time.  You can’t rush or force or manipulate your way in. The way in through slowing down, through surrender and through the body.  All of the resources above are invitations to come back into your body and trust the physical sensation of truth in your body.  The physical sensation of truth in your body is also the title of last ted-style talk I gave in Downtown Las Vegas while being hosted by an incredible event by CatalystCreativ.  I’ll attach it here because this is the gift of connecting back to our sensuality and our body, reconnecting to our own truth.  We come to know ourselves deeply. All of ourselves.  And in increasing our sensitivity and awareness, we can listen more deeply to instinctual wisdom and guidance of our bodies.  Like a jaguar with incredible instincts, we are able to cross the rainbow bridge between this physical tangible world and the invisible world of spirit and always know the essence and truth of who we are.

Rochelle Schieck – CatalystCreativ Speaker Series 01.24.14from Downtown Project LV on Vimeo.

With pleasure,

Rochelle

P.S. I recently went to Tepeyac Hill outside Mexico City.  I felt like a kid on Christmas in Disneyland.  My Divine Feminine Pilgrimage has taken me to Greek Goddess Temples, Black Madonna sites in the South of France, Churches devoted to Mary in Rome, Jerusalem, the Well of Brigid in Ireland and many many more.  However, the vision of Our Lady of Guadalupe is my most favorite visual of the essence of the Divine Feminine. Something about her image stirs my soul. So you can imagine my delight and surprise when I am reading two books simultaneously (one of them was Vagina by Naomi Wolf) and they BOTH mention Our Lady of Guadalupe’s story and the suggestion that if you look closely, her image is quite similar to a woman’s pussy.  Sacrilegious!?! Or divine intervention? The book specifically mentions the outer lips, inner lips and her crown as the clitoris. Like I said, we all have the freedom to make our own meaning in life, even about things like sex, sensuality, seduction, orgasm and pleasure.

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